“You’ve Changed…”
We’ve all heard it, from a former friend, an ex, maybe a family member; usually a person we no longer hold as close to us as we used to. Recently I heard this cliche thrown at a friend of mine and right away it got me to thinking. What is a person really saying or trying to convey to you when they make this remark?
For the sake of argument let’s generalize this (I love me a good generalization). It’s meant as an insult. It’s coming from place of damage in the heart of someone who feels disconnected form you. But it’s not an insult at all. Its a part of life and in all actuality a good thing.
Each and everyday … we experience. and with experience comes growth. Some call it a “change” but thats their beef. We grow because we have to. We need to learn in order to survive. If we have left a person behind, it’s probably because we are better or happier without them. It sucks for the person left, but it’s just the way it is. That person wasn’t as happy as he or she could be and thats not necessarily your fault. But moving on and letting go is a part of life.
What if we never changed? We would all still be the perverted, drunk, dangerous kids we once were. We would all make the same mistakes over and over and fail to achieve anything mature.
Yes, We change, Every second of everyday… we change. And it’s not a bad thing. It’s how we evolve. How society evolves. It’s part of life and if you can’t handle someone around you changing… that’s sad. Cause it’s gonna happen with or without your oh holy consent.
